CRADLE SNATCHER...

 

I remember promising to be consistent and having lots of ideas to share but somehow, I haven’t been able to keep up. No one really explained to me how busy adulthood could be especially when you are barely in control of your time, having signed it off in exchange for some notes. I love notes and I believe anyone who says otherwise is not being truthful.

Cradle snatcher!!! Let me phrase my question in several forms, what age difference is ideal for a relationship? Is age just truly nothing but a number? Does anything about age truly matter when it comes to having your heart leap for a certain person?

Soooooooo, I was seeing this series recently where a guy, Timmy, was madly in love with a girl, however, he couldn’t introduce her to his clique as he is a decade older and the girl on the other hand have no issue with the age gap. Timmy wanted his close friend’s opinion, relating the story as a third party and his friend crushed the little hope he had about being with someone that young. 

I knew it was just acting but I really felt like giving Timmy’s friend a knock, giving Timmy a hug and telling him people’s opinion have no ground in matters like this, come on! That’s my ideal age gap in a relationship. Call me an oldie, but I have always wanted my partner to be older than me, like way older and would never have dated or be with someone younger. No matter the cuteness or money involved. Being with my age mate is also less interesting.

Timmy’s friend unknowingly referred to him as a cradle snatcher and that cut Timmy deep. I rolled my eyes and wondered if a lady involved with a guy she is that older than would also be referred to as a cradle snatcher? It sounds so weird. Then, men can be so confused and probably don’t even know what they want just like Timmy. They know they are uncertain about a situation but will continue with the confusion and keep looking for validation. You know you feel like a cradle snatcher, your friends and people’s opinion matter a lot, so why continue hurting the person who doesn’t mind?

I had a discussion with someone months back, who doesn’t mind dating someone he is nine years older than but wouldn’t want to marry someone he is more than five years older. That only made me understand his kind of person (Confused). His type ends up getting married to his age mate or someone a few years younger but will keep looking for girls way younger to misbehave with and I think these are the main cradle snatchers.  

Heard, that for the guys, they sometimes prefer younger partners because they wish to feel young, some controlling (eyes rolling, cradle snatchers) and for the ladies, I can’t really say as I have no female friends with younger partners.

It’s understandable that with a huge age difference, your perception and understanding about life, its happenings and experience will differ but shouldn’t that be like an icing on the cake? Getting to understand things from two different angles. That’s if both heads or mind can be viewed as good/mature. When one is good and the other is dense, try to imagine the result (shudders)

Personally, I work and communicate well with older persons than the younger ones, though I understand that the latter come with good ideas, recent development, innovations, but most times lack the needed wisdom. I also understand that not all older persons are wise. With these, my dating years were eventful. I could  be with a person for just few days or weeks.

I don’t see myself referring to a guy/man as a cradle snatcher (not always though), if the partner in question is above 18 and is very comfortable in the union, however I will cough loudly for a 20 and above age gap. Then for the female, I have tried so much to accept that age is nothing but a number, but it’s difficult for me to embrace or imagine how it works. It is so bad that whenever I pick a book about relationship, with the lady being older, I lose interest.

Notwithstanding people’s opinion, go with what your conscience comfortably embraces.