BEING BESTIE WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX

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Growing up, my bestie was a guy. There were two relationships that I have had reasons to explain severally to people because the society raises eyebrows at friendship between the opposite sex. The truth is, I find it easy relating with people with no drama, crazy thinking or emotional imbalance. So flow with whom ever you find what you need in a friendship with.

I recently had a discussion with my husband and we argued about the possibility of a platonic relationship with the opposite sex. Now, I don’t know if it’s from a personal experience or from people around him but sited my friendship,  and as usual, difficult to believe. This prompted me to reach out to my ex-bestie and here is our chat,

1. How did we meet?

Emmanuel 

We met when I transferred to the same secondary school as you…I can’t remember exactly how we became friends

Me

Yes, when he transferred to my school, but I noticed you before then, your previous school was close to where I lived. Going home, I wondered why girls were always around you.

2. Was it close friends immediately or it developed?

Emmanuel 

I think we just clicked. I’d say it was natural.

Me

😂 Nope, I never wanted to be friends initially because most of the girls were all over you. I felt if I talked to you, they would think I was part of them but then, we had a mutual friend so we eventually clicked. Being in each other’s space did it.

3. What attracted you to each other

Emmanuel 

She smiled a lot and damn seemed genuine

Me

🤔 He was somehow different. Cute and every girls crush. So being around you was like taunting them😂


4. Best advise from him/her?

Emmanuel 

Can’t remember anything to hold onto right now

Me

What? All the times I asked you to stop .........

Well, for me, the time you asked me to break up with ‘that vagabond’ as you called him.

5. Weird things you have done together ?

Emmanuel 

None really, lol 

Me,

🤣 I’m difficult to convince to do anything outside my zone.

6. Did you ever have to explain severally that you 

are just friends?

Emmanuel 

Yes we did cuz people didn’t understand how I was close to a girl just platonically 

Me

Even till date, I still explain that nothing ever happened. We were literally always together. How were we even together in the mornings? I hated chores, so he appears, and I find an excuse to see him off, morning walk starts. 

You know, I asked my husband if his barber never mentioned me and he said no. I was surprised because you share the same barber, and I go there with you every time.

It was a friendship that was difficult to explain.

7. Did the friendship cost you any relationship ?

Emmanuel

No, none at all

Me

Nope, I always told anyone before we go further, ‘I have a very close friend and he is a guy’ so don’t be surprised if you see us tomorrow strolling hand in hand😛

8. Did you ever think of going beyond friendship?

Emmanuel 

Strangely enough no

Me

Dude is light skinned, not my spec.

9. Are you still close?

Emmanuel 

Not necessarily but we keep in touch from time to time

Me

I’ll say, I still confide in him, but I have another bestie 😜


I believe,

You can be friends with with the opposite sex without conflicting emotions.

You can be friends with the opposite sex and then emotions can come in, either from the both of you or one person.

You can be friends, then decide to go further if the feelings are mutual, but I wonder how it ends? 

I’m just trying to say, stop generalizing your opinions.


Comments

  1. MichaelAugust 27, 2021 at 3:09 PM

    😂😂😂, I think its a thing of how the friendship started for both persons

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  2. ChikezieSeptember 11, 2021 at 11:39 PM

    Yeah. True.

    I lost a good friendship with a girl who was of the opposite sex because we both lost it, altogether.

    Emotions had the better of us.

    And sadly, we are nothing now (or so I think)

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